Comments on: Sure, you can build a web site, but can you build a successful relationship?

By: Ashley Lauren

Ashley Lauren — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 23:19:39 +0000

I love this post! You’ve given me some food for thought that I hadn’t really considered. Social media essentially enables all of us to have our own reality shows.
Ash

By: admin

admin — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:41:12 +0000

Hm, that is an interesting thought. I often feel as though we forget just how large our audience is. “Accepting” a friend request is a simple click, but results in hundreds-even thousands-of friends/followers. Social networks have taken away the impact of reaching such a large audience.

This also leads to a separate question (unrelated to your specific relationship) of whether addressing an external audience is merely a reaction to the lack of communication in a relationship, as a way to garner additional attention, or even a passive-aggressive approach to communicating with your significant other.

By: Andrew Ishak

Andrew Ishak — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:41:18 +0000

Great post, Ashley. I think the question you are posing is a valuable one. My wife Heather and I talk often about what we decide to share. She is of the mindset that sharing parts of her life is something to do: “Grrr traffic so bad on Mopac” or whatever. She thinks she is just as willing to share her thoughts with me whether or not she posts something to the world.

I think about it differently. If you are posting something online, it means that you are including everyone else in the conversation. Therefore, you are less likely to have the conversation with me because your needs are being met somewhere else (or at least you feel that your needs are being met).

I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing, just my thoughts.